Any ways, I have no kids. But if I did, I would think the strategy should be to assume kids are going to get into trouble and try to arm them will skills, tools, and understanding so they can make good judgments more often than not and be able to learn from making mistakes. The trick is not to control too much because then they get to college (I see this every single day at work) and they do not have basic skill sets to function away from home. If you remove their ability to make good decisions when they are younger, you remove their ability to make good decisions when they are older. Easier said from a non-parent than done, I am sure.
It's certainly possible to let kids learn safely by getting them started early and by letting them make mistakes. But much easier when the parents are geeks at some level.
I started my daughter on touch typing before 1st grade. It was an easy game for someone who was also learning to play the piano. Got her an email address by 4th grade, mostly connecting with relatives. As a few of her classmates got email and used CC: to all their friends inappropriately for chain letters, we talked about why that was a bad idea. When she was 13, I created a Facebook account for her even though she wasn't really interested yet. I knew her password and could see what she was posting on FB page. I'm not a big FB user, but know enough (hate the interface). We talked about how to decide to accept someone as a FB Friend. The example of what not to do was her cousin, 10 years older. He had 2000 FB Friends by college, partially because he was on the football team at his large public high school and generally a popular guy. I asked her if she thought he knew those 2000 people well. She said "no." I watched her FB without every posting for quite a few years. When she was ready, I would Like a post every now and then but kept a low profile. I had nothing to worry about by the time she went to high school.
What amazed me was how many parents at my daughter's elementary school thought the best approach was to keep their kids off the Internet until they were in middle school. Back then few kids got their own cell phone until 5th or 6th grade and smart phones were very rare. The first iPhone came out in 2007.
The shift to smartphones for everyone, young and old, has happened really fast.
I have one simple rule that I strictly enforce- no exceptions: “if it’s ok with your friends’ parents it’s ok with me.”
That'll lead to no good very quickly. So many parents these days have no freakin idea what their little angels are up to. Or if they do, they are too self absorbed in their own lives to care. This is why a huge number of kids started vaping at 12-14 years old. It's why 12-13 year olds get drunk in their parents basement with their friends with their parents literally right upstairs. It's why teens who seem like good kids end up bullying classmates online. Parents don't want to put in the effort to be parents when it's so much easier to just let the kids do what they want and pretend it's not happening.
Then when little snowflake gets snagged for doing something shitty or even illegal, blind parent steps up and gets them out of trouble as quickly as possible. If you don't believe me, go talk to teachers and school administrators. Parents act like assholes and bullies to them in order to get their kids to skate free on all sorts of shit.
As for social media - it's mostly a complete nightmare. Facebook and Instagram is a place for moms to out-mom each other, and for attention whores to tell the world how awesome they and their lives are. Most social media is a cesspool.
And for most of us, myself included, our kids are way more tech savvy than we are. Mine are 19 and almost 21 now so it's not as if I monitor them anymore, but even when I did they were always one step ahead of me mostly.
The bane of developing any sort of meaningful emotional intelligence in a kid is : Helicopter Parents , who rush in to "solve " the most mundane of issues and preclude learning from one's mistakes .
Parenting inho is more Art than Science , it is PROSE , not Poetry .
Positive reinforcement ABSOLUTELY , BUT only when performance is on target , otherwise redirection .
One should not praise suboptimal performance , simply redirect and let them try again .
Trophies for participation is Nonsense .
I'd venture a safe guess that all who are on here are great parents to their kids. It really has to be tough to be a kid these days as there are so many more and different distractions than when I/we were kids.