Life Coaching for Snoloco

I forgot the most important one - forgiveness.  It's a very selfish thing to do because it's so liberating.  It's like going to the gym - you don't want to go but you feel great afterward (x100).

Choose your life mate carefully.  Much of your life's peaks and valleys will involve this person.  And do the math - if you're 25 and pondering this decision, keep in mind that you could be with this person for 50+ years.

I would add that once you have done that - you need to do everything in your power to support that decision and live up to the commitments you have made to  your life mate.

Great topic for any of us .

Sno  :  first of all the Myers Beiggs Personality indicator is a very strong and well respected tool for self anaysis and career development . We used that and other instruments when delivering executive development sessions for beaucoup large and small organizations . It is very accurate and the good news is THERE IS NO ONE BEST STYLE !! Each have their strenths and weaknesses , THE KEY is to develop  style FLEXIBILITY and learn  how to read those with whom you must interact , and then FLEX your style to meet their need .... That is how EFFECTIVE communication and maturity happens .  

Successful people "flex  situationally according to the needs  of their audiences . Sounds manipulative but effective listening is key and progress happens when people listen ,and COMMUNICATE effectively and allows contradictorary styles ( unalike on several MB indicators)  to work both collaboratively and productively .. OTHERWISE Conflict ensues

That said : While understanding One's MB personality style is very important and helpful , EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE is what moves people UP in the organization. YOU Must be BRIGHT and PRODUCTIVE to get your first job in an organization but career development is greatly enhanced via  developing one's EI  skills

One other thing to remember is :There is a STRENGTH/ WEAKNESS paradox in the MYERS BRIGGS personality indicator I.e. ANY STRENGTH USED TO EXCESS BECOMES A WEAKNESS .. Learn ro read people and FLEX Your INTJ style Is not a real surprise and i have worked with and had beaucoup several clients who were that type . I am an ENTJ. So we actually share 3 of the four characteristics and we BOTH can flex out of our HOME BASE STYLE .

Others have given you some great advice , getting a circle of friends is great , college should EXPAND and diversify your opinions and thinking  without necessarily changing your core values . AGain this an exercise in FLEXIBILITY . AND Man the advise about finding some romantic companionship and a music interest cis right on target !! it was a game changer for most of us !!!😎😎

Have fun and enjoy college  , it is a great experience .

Agree making a marriage sucessful requires a 100 percent committment on the part of each partner . COose wisely , choose your intellectual equal , you have to communicate with this person a very long time . Match your values as best you can . Beauty of the lasting kind is a multi  dimensional element : physical / attitudinal/ intellectual/complementary communication style ( yep the MB and EI  is often used in marriage counseling too ) and lastly humble ,supportive and person with a sense of humor is key .

Tall order ?? You BET it is , choose wisely and not based strictly on the physicality , ( altho supremely important to us guys in the early years ) this is not always the sustaining characteristic it is made out to be. Hey as an INTJ Take your time , evaluate carefully YOU WILL KNOW THE RIGHT ONE when the time comes .

warp daddy wrote

Agree making a marriage sucessful requires a 100 percent committment on the part of each partner . COose wisely , choose your intellectual equal , you have to communicate with this person a very long time . Match your values as best you can . Beauty of the lasting kind is a multi  dimensional element : physical / attitudinal/ intellectual/complementary communication style ( yep the MB and EI  is often used in marriage counseling too ) and lastly humble ,supportive and person with a sense of humor is key .

Tall order ?? You BET it is , choose wisely and not based strictly on the physicality , ( altho supremely important to us guys in the early years ) this is not always the sustaining characteristic it is made out to be. Hey as an INTJ Take your time , evaluate carefully YOU WILL KNOW THE RIGHT ONE when the time comes .

Although I think we both agree that making a wise choice here is important. However, the criteria you use here may be different from person to person. I actually think that the old saying that "opposites attract" has a lot of validity. If you are good in math and science, maybe your best choice is a person who leans towards liberal arts. The key is that both parties need to learn from each other and respect each other.

Talking to the kid about marriage is pretty crazy - he probably hasn't made it to first base yet.  I think we all agree he needs a girl friend but he will figure it out on his own time and probably pretty soon.

A guy can get pretty far in life just grabbin 'em by the pussy it seems.

Yes opposites DO OFTEN MAke  GREAT partners  how is that possible ??
Well what i was refering to is there are 16 different personality styles but all are based on certain preferred problem decision making characteristics .  See next paragraph 3 for the various characteristics of style .

These DO NOT mean you are unable to employ the opposing style but that your home or preferred style score is higher ...this is where the ability to recognize and use specific strategies to FLEX into or closer to the other person's preferred mode if your audience or in this case your partner is in that region . In marriage counseling this is taught to both partners , they learn how to read their styles , what their strengths and weaknesses are and most importantly HOW TO FLEX styles and begin effective listening and thius communicating

Introversion  -vs. Extroversion  
INtuition vs Sensing
Thinking -vs Feeling
Perception vs Judging

The person has. Various degrees of intensity on 4  HOME BASE  characteristics   For example. I am an ENTJ/P
My P / J characteristics are extremely close in score , but my wife is an INFP.  So we share 2 characteristics of problem solving Perception and Intuition yet we are E vs  I and F vs J. . But the. KEY Is reading the other person style and flexing .

So yes opposites CAN and DO often attract because they both share 1 or more home bases  and that can be really enhanced using the MB  flex strategies

I think you guys are giving Sno too much info all at once. He's gonna get lost in the weeds. We need to keep it simple.

Hey Sno, I remember there was a thread on whether or not we thought it was a good idea for you to skip senior year and start college early. Since you've been there for a few months now, myself and I'm sure a few others would be interested in how you are making out and if you think you made the right decision.
- Do you think you made the right choice?
- Are you meeting other kids that you share more interests with than you did in HS?
- Are you with the "real" freshmen or are you and other early entry students in different classes?
- Do you think you will stay there until you graduate from college?
- Any other positives or negatives?

I have no regrets about going to college early and I am more than pleased with the decision I made.  In fact, I can't even imagine myself still in high school today.  I was at the point where I belonged in college, not high school, and that becomes more and more clear every day.

I definitely have more friends than I did in high school, and I actually have an "inner circle" which I never had back in high school.  I'm not doing too well with finding people to ski with yet, but it's not the season for that yet.  I have a car, so I'm not relying on anyone else to get me to the ski area, so I guess I'll be going to Whiteface solo for now and will find people to go with later on.

Anyone who goes early takes all the normal classes that the regular university students take.  There is one class (First Year Seminar) where early entry students have a dedicated section, but for all the other classes, we're taking the same ones as everyone else.  We live in different dorms than the regular freshman, and while our dorms are newer and having us live together allows us to get to know other early entry students, it's not particularly easy to get to know regular freshmen.  I think this happened by chance and not by design as we are encouraged to join the clubs and organizations on campus, and can join any one of them.

The biggest negative is that because I'm an only child, I seem to have a weaker than average immune system and caught like 3 or 4 back to back colds early on.  I didn't have a huge exposure to sicknesses earlier because I didn't have siblings to bring them home.  Also, the town of Potsdam isn't really much to write home about, so I've been finding myself needing to travel further for weekend activities.  Once ski season begins, I'll be at Whiteface every Saturday and Sunday, so problem solved.

Hey lil buddy. Maybe instead of traveling on the weekends you and your pals could go camping. I'm sure there are some woods nearby that would be fun to explore. I say that because when I was in college none of us had cars, we were broke, so we had to find something to do. We would disappear into the woods (our school owned 100's and 100's of acres) on friday evening and wouldn't come out until sunday morning. Nobody on campus had more fun than we did. You may find that the simple things in life are really what it's all about.

I think Coach, tjf, HPD, ScottyJ, or one of those other Lake Placid guys should let him stay at their place on Saturday nights so he can save on gas money!

I know Sno likes to think of himself as an accelerated student but that could be too much coaching all at once for the kid  

I think this is a repeat but FWIW: Try to approach things with a Quality over Quantity lens.  Focus on Consuming less.  Minimize the value possessions in your life while Maximizing the value of experiences. Our planet depends on it.  

6 inches of Wasatch Champagne is typically much better than 2ft of Cascade Concrete.

nepa wrote

I think this is a repeat but FWIW: Try to approach things with a Quality over Quantity lens.  Focus on Consuming less.  Minimize the value possessions in your life while Maximizing the value of experiences. Our planet depends on it.  

6 inches of Wasatch Champagne is typically much better than 2ft of Cascade Concrete.

Washington, Oregon, & California seem like pretty nice states to live in, though (compared to Utah). Better beer, better wine, legalized weed, better food, better vibe, etc.

mattchuck2 wrote

nepa wrote

I think this is a repeat but FWIW: Try to approach things with a Quality over Quantity lens.  Focus on Consuming less.  Minimize the value possessions in your life while Maximizing the value of experiences. Our planet depends on it.  

6 inches of Wasatch Champagne is typically much better than 2ft of Cascade Concrete.

Washington, Oregon, & California seem like pretty nice states to live in, though (compared to Utah). Better beer, better wine, legalized weed, better food, better vibe, etc.

You're 100% correct... I've been too Utah in all seasons... the only thing that is consistently better in Utah is the Snow.  The beer is undoubtedly the worst in the country.

mattchuck2 wrote

nepa wrote

I think this is a repeat but FWIW: Try to approach things with a Quality over Quantity lens.  Focus on Consuming less.  Minimize the value possessions in your life while Maximizing the value of experiences. Our planet depends on it.  

6 inches of Wasatch Champagne is typically much better than 2ft of Cascade Concrete.

Washington, Oregon, & California seem like pretty nice states to live in, though (compared to Utah). Better beer, better wine, legalized weed, better food, better vibe, etc.

They don't allow liberals to actually live in Utah only visit

nepa wrote

the only thing that is consistently better in Utah is the Snow.  The beer is undoubtedly the worst in the country.

The snow is just about the best. I don't know if you have tried the Epic brewing Co in SLC. They make quite a few really good brews. I like the Brainless Belgium ale at 8.7 ABV.

Coach Z wrote

They don't allow liberals to actually live in Utah only visit

Wow, Coach, that is not funny at all. Like, I'm trying to figure out where the joke would be in that sentence, but I am completely confused.

How on earth do you succeed in sales if this is your sense of humor?