Life Coaching for Snoloco

Dude... you need some coaching.

I'll start.  Find a young lady to occupy more of your time.  You seem to spend a lot of time spewing with a bunch of grumpy us old men.  Don't waste your youth on this shit.

Some advice on selection criteria:  

Income potential of your partner is very important.  You say you're a smart kid, so you'll probably land a high paying job.  Think of the synergies that are possible if your wife has the same earning potential.  A DINK household will pave the way for a future of unlimited global snow riding.

She should already know how to ski or snowboard... don't waste your time on having to teach these skills.  There are many other things that you will need to teach her (as well as things you will also learn from her).  It's a two way street, but if you're as smart as you say you are, you'll know when you need to teach, and when you need to learn.

Be patient, don't rush into things.  IMO: Marriage can be like retirement.... if you go to soon, you risk getting board.

Don't study too hard.  You don't need to be that smart to succeed.  In fact, some of the smartest people fail to succeed due their lack of interpersonal skills.  It's not always about what you actually do... often times, it's more about what you say, and how you say it.  In the end, you may find that your education doesn't pay as many dividends as you would have hoped.

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This is what my personality type is, according to 16personalities.com https://www.16personalities.com/intj-personality

It says that I'm very intellectual, but not good at forming romantic relationships.

As far as studying goes, I treat college like a full time job, but I'm careful to not burn myself out and leave time for other things.

Any plans on traveling?  Have you left the country yet?

Agree that he should spend some time talking to actual people in the real world. I'm not sure what college is like right now. When you go to a party, is everyone staring at their phone? That seems like a bummer. But there are always people who have a lot of "life" to them. Seek those people out.

Also agree that he's gotta find a girl (or dude, if that's what he's into) that skis. That should be a top priority. But don't be weird and creepy about it, sno. Play it cool. You have a car and you're planning on being at the mountain a lot. Use that to your advantage ("I'm headed up this weekend if you want to ride along"). Have a bunch of relationships in your teens and 20s but don't marry anyone until you both break someone's heart and have your heart broken by someone.

Disagree that he should spend less time studying. Engineering is a good field, but it takes work and I think it's good that he's putting that work in. I work with a lot of engineers and they all seem to have a similar personality. He should try to stand out from them by not falling into the "quiet weirdo" trap. Broaden your knowledge base. Being able to talk about a wide variety of subjects is more important than being able to recite stats about 6 passenger ski lifts.

Here's the most important thing: go on adventures. Do things outside of your comfort zone. Get into the backcountry. Pick up Tele skiing. Go on a hike someplace you've never been. Ride a bike. Find a few adventure partners that you can call that are down for whatever (girls, guys, doesn't matter). Then make the plans yourself. Don't be someone who sits at home because nobody ever calls you and asks if you want to do something. Do something and find some people who are interested in doing that shit with you.

Everyone figures shit out eventually, and snoloco is still young, so he's got a lot of time. I bet he puts a nice little life together for himself.

mattchuck2 wrote

Also agree that he's gotta find a girl (or dude, if that's what he's into) that skis.

Ha.  You're right, I shouldn't be so quick to assume.

All good advice.  Coaching never hurts... but we all need to make our mistakes.

I would also recommend traveling to a third world country.  You need to understand how good we have it here.  I am a pessimist, but I am also very thankful for what we have. Obviously, it's not perfect, but in order to appreciate it you need a good point of reference.  Experiencing the shock of third world poverty will help you grow immensely.  Adventure travel, in addition to backcountry travel shaped my early world view.

You can do it cheap.  It's a blast.  And you'll learn a lot.  Think about the Peace Corps.

nepa wrote

Have you left the country yet?

Yes, in fact I did just this past weekend.  Went to the amusement park in Montreal.  I have plans to travel more.

Read a little Tim Cahill, "A Wolverine is Eating my Leg" is a good place to start. Actually that's for everybody.

All of the above. I will add this: listen to music. Go see live music. Appreciate all forms, even you do have your favourites.

Let's start with an American classic. All Along the Watchtower, composed by Bob Dylan, and ind od approprite for election night. Famously covered by Jimi Hendrix. Covered also by other fantastic artists like Neil Young with Crazy Horse, Neil Young with Pearl Jam, Dave Matthews Band, Eric Clapton with Lenny Kravitz, John Mayer, Allman Bothers and Santana (who knew?), etc. etc.

Your first assignment: go down the YouTube rabbit hole and listen as many different versions of the song as you can. Report back. Start here:

snoloco wrote

Went to the amusement park in Montreal.  I have plans to travel more.

Awesome.  Aim high... amusement parks are fun, but there a dime a dozen.

Consider places like Tikal or Angkor Wat.

Agree with Brownski.  Lay off the TV.  Read as much as you can.

Sick Bird Rider wrote

listen to music. Go see live music. Appreciate all forms, even you do have your favourites.

Sick Bird Rider wrote

Your first assignment: go down the YouTube rabbit hole and listen as many different versions of the song as you can. Report back.

I agree.  It's important to understand where these songs originated.

nepa wrote

snoloco wrote

Went to the amusement park in Montreal.  I have plans to travel more.

Awesome.  Aim high... amusement parks are fun, but there a dime a dozen.

Consider places like Tikal or Angkor Wat.

Agree with Brownski.  Lay off the TV.  Read as much as you can.

I've also been to France once.  All the times I've left the country have been to Canada, except when I went to France, or the time I took a cruise to the Bahamas.

Sno

How has your social situation been at Clarkson?  Are you making friends?  Are things better than your old school?

snoloco wrote

I've also been to France once.  All the times I've left the country have been to Canada, except when I went to France, or the time I took a cruise to the Bahamas.

Right on.  

 Cruises are not my thing.

What did you think of France?  Were you in Paris, or somewhere cool like Chamonix?  

Try to be happy and smile. You will find your significant other due time... Enjoy the outdoors/ mountains for other than skiing..

Coach Z wrote

Sno

How has your social situation been at Clarkson?  Are you making friends?  Are things better than your old school?

Things have been far better than in high school.  I've made many friends so far.  Still haven't found anyone who skis nearly as much as I do, so I'll be going to WF solo for now.

Great.  Happy to hear you are making friends your age.  Having an only child myself I understand the social challenges you face.

Post a couple days ahead that you are going to WF and you'll get some takers.

How is school going?  Is this much higher level than what you were getting at home?

I took a cruise once.

To Staten Island... it was ok but I couldn't wait to get back.

Hilarious topic, but one with merit for Sno or any younger person.  It's both enlightening and horrible to learn from your own mistakes; it's much easier to learn from others' mistakes.  Here are some that I've heard and have tweaked a bit.

I heard that Arnold Palmer dispensed this advice to an up-and-coming athlete....sign every autograph and sign it so they can read your name.  They won't forget you.  This is the difference between being great and being a legend, even if in only one person's mind.

Choose your life mate carefully.  Much of your life's peaks and valleys will involve this person.  And do the math - if you're 25 and pondering this decision, keep in mind that you could be with this person for 50+ years.

Be humble.  Let others sing your praises, not you.  Be thankful (and then go back to the start of this sentence).

There is something to be learned from everyone.  Sometimes the lesson is not to be like them.

A fool can ask a question that 100 wise men can't answer.

Science has a degree of subjectivity to it - it is based on what is known at that time and is subject to the misgivings of people, just like any other discipline.

There are differences between knowledge, experience and wisdom.  Wisdom is knowing when to apply the other two.

History and religion should be studied.  Even if they're not your thing, it helps immensely in understanding others.

Typing and Latin are the two most practical things I ever learned in school.

JasonWx wrote

Try to be happy and smile. You will find your significant other due time... Enjoy the outdoors/ mountains for other than skiing..

This ^^^^ right there.

The only thing I'll add is something my chemistry teacher in HS wrote in a card he gave me upon graduation. The saying has been around forever but imo it's true.

Sometimes the road less traveled is the best.

campgottagopee wrote

JasonWx wrote

Try to be happy and smile. You will find your significant other due time... Enjoy the outdoors/ mountains for other than skiing..

This ^^^^ right there.

The only thing I'll add is something my chemistry teacher in HS wrote in a card he gave me upon graduation. The saying has been around forever but imo it's true.

Sometimes the road less traveled is the best.

Yep - that and what DB posted - good stuff.