Admitting to being a complete novice. When I make them at home I don't even put bitters in them

and when I've ordered them out nobody has given me choice of what kind.
I like my fruit muddled, isn't it supposed to be???
No clue on the cherries ---- I grab whatever is on sale.
Please remember I'm normally a shot and a beer kinda guy

--- that's my kind of mixed drink
I'm open to any and all suggestions...